Perspectives on Race

A Discussion about Events Concerning Race

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My brother just got a new girlfriend. She is half african american and asian. I personally think she is beautiful but my brother told me its amazing how many people look at him differently on the street opposed to when he had a girlfriend who matched his racial and ethnic makeup, which is a white/americanized hispanic. (Although Hispanic my brother looks completely american, lacking any hispanic resemblance.) He tells me how awkward it is when he sees a black male look at him like “how is the world is this his girlfriend” or when a white female looks at him as if questioning “is that his girlfriend or a friend?” My brother tells me he gets embarrassed walking with her, not because he doesnt care for her but because he is not use to people starting at him and questioning his relationship. I dont understand this concept though? why do people care if my brother is going out with an african american/asian?  He’s not hurting anyone, i feel like racism within society keeps so many couples apart. Im sure if my brother keeps feeling as uncomfortable as he has been lately it will break him and his girlfriend up. Although my brother shouldnt let society’s pressure get to him, he is only human and if affected by the way people treat him/look at him. Its unfair but its how life goes.


Written by mzarandy1

November 9, 2009 at 2:28 pm

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  1. This is one of the big tragedies of racism in the US. People are forced to continue segregation through the cultural pressure put on them by their peers. It is extremely unfortunate that your brother cannot just go out with whomever he wants. We should not just attribute this to well thats life, rather we should attempt to get others to realize how stupid it is to question who he chooses to date.


    November 9, 2009 at 8:26 pm

  2. In our society mixed racial relationships are not prevalent (although I do believe this will change), so people will stare, that’s a given…people always stare when they see something they don’t usually see. But people get use to it after a few times of seeing it. Tell your brother to hang in there, and after a awhile he should notice that no one will seem to care anymore. 🙂


    November 9, 2009 at 10:37 pm

  3. Without wanting to sound like a cosmopolitan dating advice columnist, I would like to say that when people are faced with something different that doesn’t follow the norms, whether they are on the outside looking in or vice versa, there will always be stares and comments. You are right in saying that if your brother lets this worry and bother him, then it will have a negative effect on his relationship and he could end up ruining a good relationship. It is hard to stand tall and be confident when so many people are against you or don’t understand; however, at the end of the day it won’t be the spectators and onlookers that are by your side and care about your well-being, it’s the person that you are in a valuable relationship with.


    November 11, 2009 at 1:12 am

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